By now, everyone has seen or heard about Will Smith slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars for making a tasteless and misogynistic joke about his wife’s short hair resembling Demi Moore’s buzzcut in the 1997 movie “G.I. Jane.” Jada Pinkett Smith suffers from alopecia, an autoimmune disease that leads to involuntary hair loss. As shocking as Smith’s slap was, so too are the mixed reactions to the assault within the Black female community, who either praised or condemned his violence.

Comedian Tiffany Haddish, who starred in the 2017 movie “Girls Trip” with Pinkett Smith, applauded Will Smith’s action.

When I saw a Black man stand up for his wife, that meant so much to me,” Haddish told People magazine. “And maybe the world might not like how it went down, but for me, it was the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen.”

Even our Democratic U.S. Rep. Ayanna Pressley, who also has alopecia, tweeted a knee-jerk response initially supporting Smith’s assault on Rock that was later deleted, condemning the violence.

#Alopecia nation stand up! Thank you #WillSmith,” Pressley tweeted. “Shout out to all the husbands who defend their wives living with alopecia in the face of daily ignorance & insults.”

Historical antecedents such as 250 years of slavery and 90 years of Jim Crow followed by 60 years of “separate but equal” rule of law, even to the present day, have never afforded Black men the opportunity to protect and defend the honor of Black women from the brutal hands of white men. But romanticizing Smith’s violence as an act of chivalry masks its toxic masculinity.

Later that evening, Smith won the Oscar for best actor for his role in the biopic “King Richard,” in which he portrayed tennis phenoms Venus’ and Serena’s dad. In his acceptance speech, Smith said, “Richard Williams was a fierce defender of his family,” to justify his actions. The following day, Richard Williams reacted to Smith’s incident.

We don’t know all the details of what happened. But we don’t condone anyone hitting anyone else unless it’s in self-defense,” Richard Williams said via his son, Chavoita LeSane, to NBC News.

Moreover, the hubris of Smith to compare his violence that evening on a global stage to Richard Williams’s decade-long struggle raising his talented girls in gang-ridden Compton is appalling. Williams’s physical altercations were with gang members prohibiting him from using the local public tennis courts for his girls’ practice.

During Smith’s acceptance speech was a common phrase too often and eerily espoused by men who batter, beat and kill their wives and girlfriends: “Love will make you do crazy things.” Just imagine what he’d do if he didn’t love you.

It doesn’t matter if Chris Rock knew or didn’t know about Pinkett Smith’s alopecia, because Black women’s hair is the third rail in the community. The land mine can be detonated even with good intentions, and Rock knows this. In 2009 Chris Rock produced the documentary “Good Hair” when his daughter asked, “Daddy, how come I don’t have good hair?” The documentary was intended to destigmatize, via an open conversation about Black hair, what is usually kept secret in shame. The discussion included a list of luminaries: Maya Angelou, Raven-Symoné, Nia Long, Salt-N-Pepa, Eve, and the Rev. Al Sharpton, to name a few, whose insights were, in my opinion, squandered. That said, it’s clear from Rock’s joke about Pinkett Smith’s hairstyle that he didn’t learn from his documentary, which felt like a mockumentary. The film was to educate and entertain, but it did neither, and no one was laughing but Rock. Renowned film critic Robert Ebert reviewed the documentary stating, “Why do I know more about this subject than Chris Rock does?” And he’s white.

And let’s not forget the 2010 Sesame Street controversial song “I Love My Hair,” a remake of “Whip My Hair” sung by Willow Smith, daughter of actors Will and Jada Pinkett Smith. The song was intended to promote self-pride but got mixed reviews within the African American community, with some critiquing the song as a black accommodationist version of white girls flinging their tresses.

Will Smith understands the issue. Having a daughter and wife, he knows of the raw, touchy, embarrassing and humiliating feelings many Black women have about their hair. Smith may have thought he was defending Pinkett Smith’s honor, but rather, he desecrated his intentions with his violence. Moreover, to believe Jada could not defend herself like some damsel in distress is part and parcel of heteropatriarchy. Violence is merely one of its components.

BlackCommentator.com Editorial Board member and Columnist, The Reverend Monroe is an ordained minister, motivational speaker and she speaks for a sector of society that is frequently invisible. Rev. Monroe does a weekly Monday segment, “All Revved Up!” on WGBH (89.7 FM), on Boston Public Radio and a weekly Friday segment “The Take” on New England Channel NEWS (NECN). She’s a Huffington Post blogger and a syndicated religion columnist. Her columns appear in cities across the country and in the U.K, and Canada. Also she writes a column in the Boston home LGBTQ newspaper Baywindows and Cambridge Chronicle. A native of Brooklyn, NY, Rev. Monroe graduated from Wellesley College and Union Theological Seminary at Columbia University, and served as a pastor at an African-American church in New Jersey before coming to Harvard Divinity School to do her doctorate. She has received the Harvard University Certificate of Distinction in Teaching several times while being the head teaching fellow of the Rev. Peter Gomes, the Pusey Minister in the Memorial Church at Harvard who is the author of the best seller, THE GOOD BOOK. She appears in the film For the Bible Tells Me So and was profiled in the Gay Pride episode of In the Life, an Emmy-nominated segment. Monroe’s coming out story is profiled in “CRISIS: 40 Stories Revealing the Personal, Social, and Religious Pain and Trauma of Growing up Gay in America" and in "Youth in Crisis." In 1997 Boston Magazine cited her as one of Boston's 50 Most Intriguing Women, and was profiled twice in the Boston Globe, In the Living Arts and The Spiritual Life sections for her LGBT activism. Her papers are at the Schlesinger Library at Radcliffe College's research library on the history of women in America. Her website is irenemonroe.com. Contact the Rev. Monroe and BC.

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