The
shocking news of Chris Brown’s physical assault of Rihanna took
them from superstardom to domestic violence statistics. I’m pretty
sure that Chris didn’t know it was “National
Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Week” when he
allegedly used Rihanna as a punching bag.
As
shocking as the news was of Rihanna’s beat-down, for those of us
who have dealt with victims of domestic violence, the subsequent
news that the two might reconcile was not. It is predictable behavior
just like we surmised that this was not the first time for an attack
of this nature by Chris.
Reaction
to the news was swift. Doublemint Gum suspended its commercials
featuring Brown. Some radio stations pulled his music. When female
fans got wind that Rihanna may unite with her abuser, they began
to also organize boycotts of Rihanna’s music.
This
sad and sorry story must be used as a teachable moment to raise
awareness about the pervasiveness of domestic violence among young
people. The statistics aren’t rosy.
Youth
is a time of extreme vulnerability for girls and young women to
be victimized in relationships. U.S.
Department of Justice statistics reveal that females ages 16-24
are three times more likely than any other age group to experience
partner violence. One in three teens reports knowing a friend or
peer who has been hit, punched, kicked, slapped or physically hurt
by their dating partner.
That
is troubling, but it gets worse. In one report on teen violence,
female high school students were asked whom they would talk to if
someone they date is attempting to intimidate, control or physically
harm them. In a policy brief, “The Imperative of Developing Teen
Dating Violence Prevention and Intervention Programs in Secondary
Schools,” 86 percent said they would confide in a friend, while
only 7 percent said they would talk to police. Parents, counselors,
ministers or other caring adults weren’t even considered.
Maybe
this is because Family
Violence Prevention Fund and Advocates for Youth
found that 81 percent of parents surveyed either believed teen dating
violence is not an issue or they don’t know if it’s an issue. Most
parents have not talked to their male or female children about dating
violence.
We
live in a violent world in general. Violence against women is becoming
the norm in a misogynist society as the victims and perpetrators
get younger. Some powerful men, from athletes to politicians, think
that being abusive or violent is part of the job description. The
messages that young people are getting is that when you have money
or power, you can make anyone your victim. At 19 years old, Chris
has taken the bait.
In
the African-American community, there is a certain level of accepted
violence whether it’s sexual street harassment or knocking your
woman upside the head. It is why documentaries like Aishah Simmons’
“No! The Rape Documentary” and Byron Hurt’s “Hip Hop: Beyond Beats
and Rhymes” are so important to make and to widely discuss.
Chris
Brown is reported to “being sorry.” If Chris is truly sorry, he
can help his young fans learn a valuable life lesson by speaking
out on the dangers of domestic violence. He needs to roll out some
anti-violence ads geared towards young people. He should make hefty
donations to projects that address teen dating violence. Rihanna
needs to do likewise. They are now poster kids for domestic violence;
they might as well be spokespersons.
It
is rumored that Chris and Rihanna will soon record a love duet.
No doubt this bad advice is coming from attorneys and publicists
to redeem the image of the two. Instead, some one with some wisdom
should encourage them to use their star power to emphasize an important
message: Violence has no place in any relationship.
BlackCommentator.com
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