A couple of week’s
ago, I was honored to received the 2009 PLUS Award
from Forgiving for Living, Inc. The organization focuses on resolving
issues of hate, anger, bitterness and the inability to forgive and
honorees were selected for their work in promoting and restoring
mental wellness and self-esteem by providing mentorship and resources
to individuals that have dealt with abuse, violence, abandonment,
low self-esteem, and hate.
So after accepting my award,
asking Councilman Bernard Parks for forgiveness regarding that nasty
issue of renaming Parker Center, I dedicated
the award to my Grandma Lina, whom I had brought along with me to
the event. For those who don’t know me, my grandmother is like a
mother to me and means everything in the world to me and showed
me the meaning of how to forgive and live.
Towards the end of my acceptance
speech, I took the time to remind the audience that it often times
takes a village to raise and child, and even a young adult. And
while I am in now ways a motherless or fatherless child, I cannot
over the look the contributions of others in this community who
have looked after me and made sure that I am the young lady that
I am today, whether they knew what they were doing so or not. So
blame them and not me, lol.
But since Mother’s Day is upon
us, what better way to acknowledge their role in my life than by
paying homage to them right here and right now.
So here we go.
Cousin Kemba, I got my Black
pride from yo’ mama, Vivian Hines. Incidentally, she also contributed
to my love affair of HBCUs.
Cousin Kelle Belle, yo’ mama
is just cool, always has been. So shout outs to Aunt Jessie.
Courtney, yo’ mama Wendy Gladney
taught me how to forgive to live and more importantly, how to not
judge a book by its cover. Thank you.
Odudawa, I got my history from
yo’ mama Asantawa Olatunji. It’s because of her that I’m not walking
around here clueless about where I come from and who I am. Incidentally,
she’s also to blame for me ditching chemical relaxers and being
happy nappy. Thank you.
Imani, I learned how to take
care of my skin and body from yo’ mama Nona Cohen. If it hadn’t
been Nona and her Body Clinic staff teaching me the importance of
taking care of my face and learning exactly how to do that, I might
still resemble the acne-scarred, pimple-faced-looking teenager I
once was. Thank you.
I think Brenda Marsh-Mitchell
is everyone’s mama and is the true epitome of a Mother In Action.
I learned the true spirit of
giving of one’s self from Yvonne Wheeler, one of the most tireless
advocates we have in Los Angeles advocating on behalf of working
families who is always right on time with an hear to listen and
a heart that cares.
One of the best foster parents
in the county of Los Angeles, Gloria Brown, never
gave up on me and saw me through to the end. Happy birthday!
Kenny, Althea, Helen, and Jackie,
my glam sqaud of mama’s. Thank you for everything!
Mother Love, thanks
for showing me that it is possible to lose the weight and live a
fabulous life and that it is possible to eat healthy and enjoy it
at the same time. Your advice on forgiving others didn’t go over
my head either.
The one thing I miss the most
about Assembly member Dymally being out of office, is Mrs. Dymally’s
encouragement, Fabian’s humor, Leticia’s mom’s tamales, Mary’s cooking,
and Claudia’s fashion advice. Sorry Mr. D, but it’s true, no worries,
I miss you too and happy birthday!
Councilwoman Jan Perry, Bev
Smith, Beverly White, and Speaker Karen Bass, when I grow up, I
want to be just like you!
To my Grandma Velma, while she
may be gone from this world as we know it, her impact on my life
will stay with me forever. I love you Grandma.
And finally, Cousin Jenet, I
got my patience and understanding from yo’ mama, my Aunt Joyce.
Because it’s going to take a lot of both for me to help her understand
that diabetes isn’t an automatic death sentence and that as soon
as she’s ready, the whole family is here to help her get back on
track.
All
of this has been to show that when we come together as a community
and extend ourselves to those in need there’s no telling whose life
we may have a positive influence on. There’s no way I could have
made it this far in life without the help, advice, and love of extraordinary
team of women. And while they all have children of their own, that
never stopped them from taking on one more…me. So whether blood
related or not, I consider them all a part of my family, and want
to say thank you and Happy Mother’s Day!
So when you see me sashaying
around town, representing on television, in print, or on the radio,
sticking up for my people anytime, anyplace, on any issue, remember…I
got it from yo’ mama. Don’t blame me.
Happy Mother’s Day!
BlackCommentator.com Columnist,
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