So I went to
the scene of the crime yesterday afternoon that left a teenage girl
dead and a 30-year-old paraplegic arrested for murder.
If I’d driven by too fast, I’d
have missed the small makeshift memorial of candles and teddy bears
that marked the spot where another Black person lost their life
to senseless violence at the hands of another Black.
Why? Because it was business
as usual.
Crackheads still looking for
the next hit. Buses picking up and dropping off passengers. Parking
lot kings and queens still reigning supreme, as if nothing at all
had happened just 24 short hours ago.
I sat in my car for most of
yesterday evening listening to the news on the radio and waiting
to see if anyone at all from L.A.’s Black community or leadership
felt as strongly as I did and had to come down to the scene of the
crime to reflect personally.
But no one came.
Sure,
plenty of people walking by on their way to wherever couldn’t help
but notice the candles arranged in a circle on the sidewalk. But
that seemed to be the extent of the public’s curiosity or concern
for why a grown ass wheelchair bound woman felt compelled enough
to challenge a 15-year-old teenage girl over a man that it resulted
in her murder.
So then it hit me.
I wondered, if had the victim
been gang related and male, would that have brought out the television
activists?
I wondered, if had the victim
been Black and the suspect Latino, would that have moved L.A.’s
Black leadership to gather on Santa Rosalia Drive and decry the
violence that rocks our community on a daily basis?
I
wondered, if she had been killed by a police officer, would that
have brought out the pastors who would then pray for the community?
I wondered, if had this been
another case of an employee going postal over a lost job, instead
of over a man, would it have warranted more attention?
I wondered, if had the victim
been white, and a student at USC or UCLA and a member of a sorority,
would her murder have been featured in the Los Angeles Times?
I wondered, if had the victim
been a member of a professional sports team - would there be billboards
up the next day conveying condolences?
I wondered, if had this killing
happen on Monday, March 2, would that have brought out the Mayor
and the city’s other elected officials to stand silently reflecting
on the small circle of candles representing two more lives lost
- one to the criminal justice system, another to the morgue.
I wondered, had the parties
involved been anyone other than two Black women, would someone give
a (fill-in-the-blank)?
So I ask, do the lives of Black
women matter?
Because I find it hard to believe
that I am the only Black women in Los
Angeles that is disturbed by what happened yesterday. I cannot be
the only Black person around here who feels that while our educational
system is failing our children, as adults we are doing the same.
I don’t know all of the facts
surrounding the incident, but then again, I don’t need to. The fact
that at 15-years-old, the victim had any man in her life who wasn’t
her father, grandfather, or some other relative is enough evidence
to me that we aren’t doing our jobs. Forget the exact details because
they are irrelevant.
What is important and equally
troubling is this trend of apathy on the part of Blacks where Black
women are concerned.
R. Kelly made a video of him
peeing on a teenage victim. It was her fault.
On national television during
a slow motion replay, tennis commentator Roger Rasheed of Australia’s Channel Seven
on Venus Williams, “take a look at this now. Make or think as you
will, ladies, but for me, that’s a pretty good sight.” Didn’t bother
us because we like looking at her ass too.
They were lesbians so they deserved
what they got.
Rhianna took him back, so she’s
the fool.
And I could go on and on…but
I won’t.
It wasn’t that long ago
that Shontae Blanche, 22, was murdered on Slauson and Western after
being run over in an incident involving 30 young Black women. Another
incident over a man where a Black woman lost her life and another
was sent to prison for the rest of hers.
And yes, I have to say it -
I may have issues with the selective and seemingly orchestrated
activism by some of L.A.’s “Black activists,” but one thing I know for sure is that if
Najee Ali were not locked up - he’d have been out there yesterday
evening. And that’s just being real.
Our brothas may be out there
killing each other over colors and streets that neither own, but
our sistas are doing the same and if we don’t call attention to
it, no one else will.
I mean really - what does it
say when a teenager is dating anyone and an adult woman feels compelled
to fight a child? It says that something went wrong at home with
both of these sistas. Self-respect doesn’t dictate that you fight
over any man. But how do you get self-respect if you weren’t raised
to have any? And how could you have been raised to have any if your
momma didn’t have any herself? And so on and so forth.
We spend so much time focused
on our young Black men that we’re dropping the ball with our young
Black sistas.
You can sit outside of any junior
high or high school and look at the outfits female students show
up in. Listen to the conversations and count how many times those
same students refer to themselves and other Black women as hos,
bitches, and the like.
And it’s not just with teenagers.
Where do you think they get it from?
I know how sensitive a subject
this is in our community, just as sensitive as talking about a Black
woman’s hair or weight. But
just because it’s sensitive doesn’t mean that it should go unaddressed
and as long as it does, we’ll continue to have these incidents of
utter crazyness. Jerry Springer and Maury Povich have nothing on
the madness that happens in the hood.
When we speak about a Black
agenda, we immediately jump to economics, health, politics, etc.,
but perhaps we need to take a step back out of our middle class
status and realize that we can’t address those issues until we address
issues like the ones above that are created and fueled by how we
raise our daughters. Teenagers don’t just wake up one morning and
decide they’re going to date anyone. Just like adult women don’t
just wake up and decide that they’re going kill someone for sleeping
with their man. No, that takes years of pre-conditioning - sometimes
15, other times 30.
What I do know is that as Black
women and people, Michelle, Malia, and Sasha cannot be the only
Black women whose lives matter to us in 2009.
BlackCommentator.com Columnist,
Jasmyne Cannick, is a critic and commentator based in Los Angeles who writes about the worlds of pop culture, race, class,
and politics as it relates to the African-American community. A
regular contributor to NPR’s ‘News and Notes,’ she was chosen as
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