Pride celebrations? Haven’t we assimilated?

As we all know, June is Pride Month for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) communities across the country – and parades abound.

Unlike the revolutionary decade of the 1960s, during which the air bred dissent, we LGBTQ people appear to be residing in a sanguine time – rebels without a cause, a context or an agenda. Many of us would argue that we have moved from our once urgent state of, “Why we can’t wait!” to our present lull state of, “Where do we go from here?”

With advances such as hate crime laws, “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” repealed, same-sex marriage legal in some states, anti-homophobic a national concern, we have come a long way since the first Pride marches four decades ago. Also, with the AIDS epidemic no longer ravaging our community as it once did – an epidemic that galvanized us to organize – and with the Religious Right becoming more of a political liability than an asset to political candidates these days, our backs appear to not be slammed as harshly up against a brick wall like they used to be.

Some in our community contest that we are in a holding pattern while other argue that we are ready to assimilate into mainstream society. Boston Pride’s new Human Rights and Education Committee (HREC) broached this topic by presenting a forum to discuss the impact of assimilation on LGBTQ communities and cultures.

In its flyer HREC wrote, “2010 was a year of progress for the LGBT Community…Of course there is more to accomplish before we can consider ourselves truly equal and some of the questions we want to delve into are:

With the LGBTQ community being the fastest disenfranchised group to touch the fringes of America’s mainstream since the Stonewall Riots in 1969, many who oppose the LGBTQ community driving forth an assimilationist agenda are waving a cautionary finger saying to us “not too fast now.” And the cautionary finger waving is because not everyone in the LGBTQ community is accepted.

While we all rev up each June for Pride so, too, do the fault lines of race and class in our larger and white LGBTQ community. In addition to Gay Pride events, there will be segments of our population attending separate Black, Asian, and Latino Gay Pride events. And oddly enough, the racial divide that is always evident at Pride events across the country shows us something troubling and broken about ourselves as we strive to be a community and movement.

The growing distance between our larger and white LGBTQ community and LGBTQ communities of color is shown by how, for an example, a health issue like HIV/AIDS, that was once an entire LGBTQ community problem, is now predominately only in communities of color.

The themes and focus of Black, Asian, and Latino Pride events are different from the larger Pride events. Prides of communities of color focus on issues not solely pertaining to its LGBTQ community but rather on social, economic and health issues impacting their entire community. For example, where the primary focus and themes in white Prides has been on marriage equality, as in the larger community, LGBTQ people of African descent Pride events have had to focus not only on HIV/AIDS but also on unemployment, housing, gang violence , LGBTQ youth homelessness, etc.

And cultural acceptance is just one of a few things LGBTQ communities of color still do not experience from larger Pride events, experiencing social exclusion and invisibility. For example, Sunday gospel brunches, Saturday night Poetry slams, Friday evening fashion shows, bid whist tournaments, house parties, the smell of soul food and Caribbean cuisine and the beautiful display of African art and clothing are just a few of the cultural markers that make Black Pride distinctly different from the dominant queer culture.

After decades of Pride events, where many LGBTQ people of African decent tried to be included and weren’t, Black Gay Pride was born. While Pride events are still fraught with divisions, they, nonetheless, bind us to a common struggle for LGBTQ equality.

Driving forth an assimilationist agenda would eradicate the idea that our gift and our struggle are that we are a diverse community. Our diversity as a LGBTQ community should not be diluted, but rather, our diversity should teach us more about its complexity, and by extension, teach the larger society.

Our diversity not only affirms our uniqueness as LGBTQ people; it also broadens America’s understanding that a democratic society is a diverse one.