| To some 
                      in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer communities 
                      (LGBTQ), three-time Olympic gold medalist and three-time 
                      MVP of the Women�s National Basketball Association (WNBA), 
                      Sheryl Swoopes, is a �lie-sexual,� another sister-girl on 
                      the �down low� with the incredulous news that she�s now 
                      engaged to marry a man.  To 
                      incurable homophobes, especially of the fundamentalist Christian 
                      variety type, who pedal their �nurture vs. nature� rhetoric 
                      that homosexuality is curable with reparative theories, 
                      they see Swoopes as the prodigal daughter who has finally 
                      found her way home to Jesus.
 And to many of my heterosexual 
                      African American brothers, Chris Unclesho, the man Swoopes 
                      is engaged to marry, is the MAN! A bona fide �dyke whisperer� 
                      who has turned Swoopes out to the sexual joys of what it 
                      is to be with a man. Depending on which of 
                      the above groups you identify with, Swoopes� news sends 
                      seismic shock waves to those of us fighting the de-medicalization 
                      and de-stigmatization of queer sexualities. And for those cheering 
                      Swoopes� news with thunderous applauses that she has gone 
                      straight again, proves sadly, to folks like Republican presidential 
                      hopeful, Michele Bachmann, that our continuous struggle 
                      for LGBTQ civil rights is nothing merely than a politicized 
                      hedonistic gay agenda to upend traditional family values. �It is amazing to me 
                      that after all the HOOPLA surrounding Sheryl Swoopes �coming 
                      out� � her recent marriage to a MAN get�s virtually no attention. 
                      Is she now UN-GAY? Why is the fact that this woman went 
                      through a period of �trial� in her life NOT getting any 
                      press? It is obvious that the woman, just like every other 
                      gay or lesbian man or woman in the world, had at that time 
                      made a CHOICE to entertain the idea of being with someone 
                      of the same gender. Sheryl is just more proof that no one 
                      is born gay, it is a learned behavior brought on by experiences 
                      and circumstances in one�s life. I am very happy for Sheryl 
                      � but the �gay agenda� driven PRESS can bite it,� an ESPN.com blogger wrote. My head spins at the 
                      thought of how Christian� de-gaying� counseling services, 
                      like Dr. Marcus Bachmann�s, Michelle Bachmann�s spouse, 
                      has could politicize Swoopes� seemingly sexual flip-flopping 
                      as their poster-child.  In 
                      1997, a pregnant Sheryl Swoopes, promoting a heterosexual 
                      face for the WNBA was the cover-girl for the premiere issue 
                      of �Sports Illustrated Women.� At the time, Swoopes was 
                      married to her male high school sweetheart. In 2005, Swoopes 
                      came out as a lesbian, becoming the second in the WNBA, 
                      and endorsed the lesbian travel company �Olivia.� She was, 
                      at this time, partnered with Alisa Scott, an assistant coach 
                      for the Houston Comets that Sheryl played for from 1997-2007. 
                      And now, in 2011, she�s with a male.
 And while many suspect 
                      Swoopes has indeed found Jesus in a Bible-thumping homophobic 
                      church because there been a lot about God posted on her 
                      Facebook which might explain her flip-flopping, Swoopes 
                      has neither renounced homosexuality nor retracted her 2005 
                      �coming out� statements about being a lesbian. �There is nothing I�ve 
                      been through in my life that I regret, or that I would go 
                      back and change. I feel like everything that happened - 
                      personally and professionally - I went through for a reason, 
                      and I learned from those things, �Swoopes just recently 
                      told ESPN.com 
                      reporter, Mechelle Voepel. What lies at the center 
                      of various reactions to Swoopes� announcement is not her 
                      seemingly duplicitous sexual flip-flopping, but rather our 
                      ignorance and phobia about bisexuality that complicates 
                      people�s � straight and LGTQ - understanding of the scope 
                      of heterosexism. Just lollygagging on 
                      the phone last evening to a dear friend, who�s lesbian, 
                      about Swoopes, she said, �Well, I kinda� could see how a 
                      sister might be bisexual, but there�s no such thing as a 
                      bisexual brother. Girlfriend, he�s really on the �down-low.�� 
 Bisexuals are an underrepresented, 
                      if not invisible, group to those - in both heterosexuals 
                      and LGBTQ communities - who can only conceive of a gay/straight 
                      binary paradigm. The Kinsey scale, developed out of Alfred 
                      Kinsey�s research on human sexuality in the 40s and 50s, 
                      explains the fluidity of sexuality ranging from 0 to 6, 
                      meaning exclusively heterosexual to exclusively homosexual, 
                      respectively, and where a bisexual is 3. Bisexual women are between 
                      a rock and a hard place within gay and straight circles. Within bi-phobic lesbian 
                      circles, the place of bisexual women within the queer women�s 
                      community is sadly still marginal, if not non-existing, 
                      and their commitment to feminism is always suspect. Many 
                      lesbians believe that any woman who has the ability to sexually 
                      love another women also has a political obligation to identify 
                      as lesbian. Others believed that the compulsory nature of 
                      heterosexuality in our culture precludes all possibilities 
                      of women freely choosing a heterosexual relationship. And within homophobic 
                      straight circles, the place of bisexual women is a push 
                      toward them as devout heterosexual Christians. Who Swoopes is partnered 
                      with or married to is really none of our business. 
 But this fact is for 
                      sure: For those who are in 
                      the straight camp cheering Swoopes for �crossing back over� 
                      or in the queer camp castigating her for �flip-flopping, 
                      it all signals our bi-phobia placed on Swoopes. BlackCommentator.com 
                      Editorial Board member, the Rev. Irene Monroe, is a religion 
                      columnist, theologian, and public speaker. She is the Coordinator of 
                      the African-American Roundtable of the Center for Lesbian and 
                      Gay Studies in Religion and Ministry (CLGS) at the Pacific 
                      School of Religion. 
                      A native of Brooklyn, 
                      Rev. Monroe is a graduate from Wellesley College and Union 
                      Theological Seminary at Columbia University, and served 
                      as a pastor at an African-American church before coming 
                      to Harvard Divinity School for her doctorate as a Ford Fellow. 
                      She was recently named to MSNBC�s list of 10 Black Women You Should Know. Reverend Monroe is the author 
                      of Let Your Light Shine Like a Rainbow Always: Meditations on Bible 
                      Prayers for Not�So�Everyday Moments. As an African-American 
                      feminist theologian, she speaks for a sector of society 
                      that is frequently invisible. Her website 
                      is irenemonroe.com. 
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