"…with
names like Shaniqua, Taliqua and Mohammed and all of that
crap, and
all of them are in jail.” – Bill
Cosby quoted at the gala event honoring the 50th anniversary
of Brown v Board of Education, May 17, 2004 Mr. Cosby, you may think
my name is “crap,” but
it actually means “seasons beginning” in Kiswahili. I was born
on December 20th, the end of fall and the beginning of winter.
My parents bought a book of names before I was born and read
it over and over again until they found one they liked. At school,
some of my friend’s names are: Shameka, Makeeba, Shaquana and
Kashia and none of us are in jail. I don’t know what all
my friends’ names mean, but I know they don’t mean failure. We
go to middle school, get decent grades and live pretty normal
lives.
When I read the remarks you made, I
wondered whether Shaniqua was sitting in the audience that night,
and what she felt when she heard you mention her name. I wonder
if she went to school the next day feeling proud to have been
able to attend a gala event to celebrate a historic occasion
like the 50th anniversary of Brown v. Board of Education,
whether she felt like she had been kicked in the stomach, or
whether she just blew off the whole thing as just another old
man talking too much.
My parents talk to me a
lot about what goes on in the world. Mostly, they try to get me to understand
that sometimes there’s more to a person than what meets the eye
and that I shouldn’t make assumptions. I hope that when I am
ready to send in my resume for a job, that the person reading
it will judge me by my qualifications and not the spelling of
my name. I think that someone should not stereotype a child by
their name and definitely not tease them because it is different.
One of my grandfathers’ names is Rolumus. My dad said that it
was supposed to be Romulus, but my great-grandparents couldn’t
spell. That happened a lot with black people who were freed slaves.
You have a simple and common name. I have an aunt and uncle named
Bill and Camille and they are white. I also know that some
of your children have unusual names and I think that’s great. You
and your wife made the decision to give them different names
and no one is going to hold that against you and hopefully not
against your kids either.
All I wanted to say Mr.
Cosby is that I truly hope you didn’t mean to insult anyone named Shaniqua
or Taliqua or Mohammed because I know they are out there. I’ve
watched reruns of your show on Nick at Nite and it seemed
to me that if one of your TV kids had made fun of someone’s name,
that “Cliff Huxtable” would have taught them a lesson. Maybe
you were just in a bad mood that night at Constitution Hall. But
I think you owe all of us an apology.
This essay was
edited by Joan Grangenois-Thomas, Kiah’s mom. |