Our
nation, these United States, are founded on the principles of racism
and patriarchy. They are reflected in our very constitution, where
enslaved persons were counted as a fraction of a person, and only men
of property were allowed the right to vote. The filthy inequality at
the foundation of this nation has now bubbled up and boiled over, now
polluting every aspect of our lives.
Patriarchy
places men at the center of life, and women at the periphery. It
suggests that women do not matter. It allows for the subjugation of
women when they attempt to enter public spaces that have previously
been earmarked as “male” spaces. Thus, there were no
restrooms for women legislators in the US House or Senate, even as
women entered those spaces. They were only created when women
demanded them. Of course, restrooms are just a minor manifestation
of the hegemonic patriarchy that rules our nation.
A
great picture of our nation’s racist patriarchy was the visual
of doughy and dissipated white men interrogating the amazingly
composed Anita Hill as she reviewed her experiences with now Supreme
Court Justice Clarence Thomas. Though Hill was persuasive, she was
attacked in the vilest of terms, accused of nonsense like
“erotomania," and even recently harassed by Thomas'
unhinged spouse who was still seeking apology after two decades.
Note to Thomas, take the phone from your wife when her meds are not
working. In any case, Thomas is on the Supreme Court because white
men chose to disregard the word of a Black woman, a decision that
then-Senator Joe Biden says he now regrets. Thomas was confirmed by
the narrowest margin in history 52-48.
Here
we go again. By the time this is published the matter of 45’s
Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh may be resolved, but the issue of
pernicious patriarchy will not be. Regarding Kavanaugh, he has been
accused by Dr. Christine Blasey Ford of sexual assault more than 35
years ago, when both were teens. She disclosed her accusations in a
letter that California Senator Dianne Feinstein received in July, but
did not share with the FBI until later, mainly because Ford asked for
confidentiality. Ford has requested that the FBI investigate her
assertions, and the Senate Judiciary committee is still fast-tracking
the Kavanaugh vote. The outcome, while necessary, is not the bottom
line. The issue is the way that racist patriarchy makes some
offensive and illegal behavior acceptable.
Privileged
white male culture allows and encourages excessive drinking and
obnoxious behavior toward women. It is excused because "boys
will be boys." But what boys? Black boys, even accused of
“reckless eyeballing”, are fair game for lynching!
White boys on rampages are excused for assault, rape, and attempted
rape. Can I call the name of Recy Taylor, the young Black woman who
was walking home from church and raped by a gaggle of white men who
thought her body their right? Can I remind us of the Texas
gubernatorial candidate, Clayton Williams, who said that if rape was
inevitable, a woman should "lay back and enjoy it”? Ann
Richards beat him, but that wasn't quite the point. The point was
that some man thought that rape was inevitable enough to "enjoy."
Privileged
white male culture allows a man who should not have been elected
President to denigrate women on a regular basis. We are "fat"
"dogs" and "liars." He bragged about grabbing
women's genitals, and our society is so poached in pernicious
patriarchy that 52 percent of all women still voted for him. They
thought he was joking because, for too many women, patriarchy has so
seeped into our consciousness that the abuse of women is a joke.
If
we women were honest, we would say that we have all cosigned
patriarchy in the interest of keeping it moving. We have deflected
the sexist comments that come our way, even as we cringe from them.
We smile at men that we abhor because they may have decision making
power in their hands. We dress up or dress down depending on the
occasion and the way we have to play the game. We know the system is
slanted against us, we know we still have to play, and we decide when
we choose to blow the whistle, a whistle we could blow every single
day. #MeToo is the tip of the iceberg because it fails to deal with
race systematically, but also because it manages the evident and
personal, not the institutional.
In
addition to being #MeToo women, we are mothers, sisters, daughters,
and wives (hello Julie Chen Moonves), so some of us want to justify
patriarchy for “our” men. Our sons, husbands, cousins,
brothers “didn’t mean it” and could not be that
bad. Wake up call -- if they violated a woman, they were THAT bad.
If they raped a Black woman and you turned away from the accusation,
you are wrong, you are horribly and complicity wrong.
Tearing
down the walls of pernicious patriarchy means attacking the very
foundation of our nation. When we attack patriarchy, we also attack
the racism that is also part of our foundation. Many have lined up
to support Dr. Christine Blasey Ford. How many are equally willing
to attack the pernicious racist patriarchal roots of our nation?
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