"Sesame
Street’s" most famous duo Bert and Ernie first appeared in
1969, the same year as the Stonewall Riots, which to the nation’s
surprise catapulted the LGBTQ Liberation Movement. And at that time,
the idea of partnering these two lovable striped-sweater-wearing
puppets as gay was as inconceivable as the idea of legalized same-sex
marriage.
But four-plus decades later with Bert and Ernie’s
relationship outliving many heterosexual living
arrangements―roommates or married―and mirroring the
subtle ways in which LGBTQ couples discreetly went about their lives
back in the day, the question of whether the guys are gay is not only
apropos, but so, too, is the question of their nuptials.
"They
are not gay, they are not straight, they are puppets," President
and CEO of Sesame Workshop, Gary Knell said. "They don’t
exist below the waist."
The funny thing about the
dominance of heteronormativity in society, I’ve learned as a
lesbian, is that it is always assumed―whether it’s above
or below the waists of people or puppets. And, oddly,
heteronormativity is also assumed without questions, expected without
exception, and explained even in its silence.
But Knell is
not entirely truthful in his reply that the puppets are neither gay
nor straight.
My favorite Jim Henson Muppet is the
over-the-top heterosexual prima-Donna, femme fatale, and sex-siren
Miss Piggy. And the love of her life, Kermit the frog, unwittingly
marries her in "The Muppets Take Manhattan."
"Sesame
Street" has always moved and grooved with the times. Its
concept of "Muppet diplomacy," a term coined to depict
"Sesame Street’s" efforts to educate children around
the world, has tackled tough social issues like HIV/AIDS, child
obesity, 9/11 and military deployment, to name a few, and has danced
and sang with mega rock stars and hip-hop artists like Bono, Beyonce,
and Justin Beiber.
Is it possible that my "gaydar"
is off about "Sesame Street"? Perhaps. But hasn’t
"Sesame Street" over the years, in a tongue-in-cheek
fashion, winked and nodded to the LGBTQ community?
For
example, was it mere coincidence that during "Coming Out Month"
of October 2010 African American lesbian comedian Wanda Sykes
appeared on the show? But Sykes is not the only openly LGBTQ person
who appeared on the show. Openly gay guest stars like Neil Patrick
Harris played a "shoe fairy," and will.i.am of the "Black
Eyed Peas" sang "What I Am?," a song about self-
acceptance, creating an online kerfuffle about its underlying
message.
Is it now time for "Sesame Street’s"
under-the-radar winks and nods to the LGBTQ community be replaced
with a full-throated statement of support?
"Sesame
Street" has a long history of teaching children about diversity
and acceptance; so, why should the issues impacting our LGBTQ
children be excluded? Moreover, many of the children watching the
show are not only LGBTQ, but so, too, are their parents and
households.
In other words, could it be that "Sesame
Street" needs to come out of the closet?
In many ways,
their famous duo has. And Bert and Ernie have not only been
roommates, but they have also been sleep-mates, sleeping next to each
other like any long-term committed couple.
I realize, however,
in a culture that constantly sexualizes the coupling of same-gender
relationships as gay, we ignore our friendships with our "best
friends forever" (BFF), which is what producers of "Sesame
Street" are stating about Bert and Ernie.
For example,
for over two decades Oprah and her gal pal, Gayle King,
editor-at-large for O, The Oprah Magazine, have denied rumors they
are lesbians, but instead have publicly stated they are each other’s
BFF, just two sistah-girls being sister-friends.
After 30
years of four-times-a-day phone calls, and frequent sightings of
where you see Oprah you also see Gayle, the public continues to
question Oprah and Gayle about their relationship.
"No,
I’m not a lesbian, I’m not even kind of a lesbian,"
Oprah stated on "A Barbara Walters Special: Oprah, The Next
Chapter."
"The reason why it irritates me is because
it means that somebody must think I’m lying. That’s
number one," Winfrey told Walters. "Number two...why would
you want to hide it? That is not the way I run my life."
I
also realize that constantly labeling same-gender relationships as
gay diminishes and distorts the romantic relationships we LGBTQ
people have with our significant others. As a matter-of-fact,
constantly labeling same-gender relationships as gay not only wrongly
assumes that the only reason for two people of the same gender
getting together is for sex, but it also keeps in place the myth of
the hypersexual and predatory LGBTQ person.
However, "Sesame
Street’s" is an open classroom for our kids, reflecting
the times. Same-sex marriage is one of the social issues of the day.
How will “ Sesame Street" explain to children in
same-gender families and households why Miss Piggy and Kermit the
frog can marry, but Bert and Ernie can’t?
I’m
going with Mark Saltman’s said that when he wrote Bert and
Ernie episodes for Sesame Street, he thought of them as gay.
I,
do, too!
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