We’ve started a new tradition
for Father’s Day and are inviting all Fathers, Step-Fathers,
Adopted Fathers, Foster Fathers, Surrogate Fathers and any other
type of Fathers to participate with us. Ordinarily, on Father’s
Day, Dads are expected to receive gifts and other pleasures from
their offspring. Of course, we have never gotten anywhere near
the level of goodies that Mothers get on their day, (our lobby
isn’t as powerful as theirs), but that’s not what
this is about. What we’re proposing is something entirely
different. We’re starting a tradition of Dads giving their
children a gift on Father’s Day: a photograph of themselves.
Over the past few years, we’ve surveyed hundreds of people,
especially Black Men, and found that most of those asked do not
possess a single photo of their Father that was given to them
by their Dad and many don’t have a photo of their Dad at
all. The numbers are very different when it comes to their Mothers.
Virtually all have photos of Mom. (As mentioned before, they
have a much more powerful lobby).
To be clear, this is not meant as a competition with MotherWomen,
as there is no comparison to what each contributes to the offspring.
It is a way to address a generational divide that has contributed
to the serious isolation of Black Men from our families and communities.
Most Dads have photos of our children which
follow them from childhood to adulthood. This is an important
part of documenting
their lives, their histories. We know when and where the photos
were taken and what was going on in their lives at that time.
Our children should be able to do the same with us, for themselves
and for their children, so that no matter what the situation
was/is with the Mothers, the children will know something of
their Fathers and pass it on. And even if the children are grown,
it’s not too late to start doing this passing on, for that’s
what a tradition is, a passing of elements of the culture from
one generation to the next.
Harold
Lee Rush is a Chicago based broadcaster and writer. He
wrote this piece on behalf of The
Institute for Black Men. |